Basically, I verrrrrry slowly peeled away the bitterness and hatred and left only a variably delicate recitation of my own lived experience, ensconced in apologies and regret.
Instead, you look like a ranting lunatic and they get the double win: they were right in their opinion of you and they are therefore justified in persecuting you further. Did I suddenly realize he was right about everything and take it to heart or did it validate that he was a crazy asshole and I was right to cut him off and further justified in never talking to him again?
And it hurts. I tried to break fate for you. If you want or expect that they will respond thoughtfully, you will be disappointed.What if the recipient gets the letter, and becomes indignant, perhaps you wronged this person and you don't even know it, now you've just blown up a situation and you may be in the position of defending yourself in some way. Personally, I think it depends on the situation. I'm with Solomon that living well is the best revenge. I felt that way about you all last year while, you very quickly forgot about me. I will miss the way you say my name. So if you're wanting to send a letter to people who have treated you with such unequivocal disregard, do yourself a favor and save it. I would have kissed you for the first and last time. Now I see it was all a lie. So sending the letter would be futile. I was so malleable I made my own skin crawl with my lack of integrity. Obviously this is bullshit. And in that scenario hopefully you wouldn't start by telling them they are loathsome. One scenario, sending that letter verifies to the asshole in question that what they did to you worked and they were able to exert that tiny bit of power over you. And thus, the therapy of venting your feelings is the best you will get from the experience, and to expect anything more is to set yourself up to be let down, or tangled in something worse than before.
However, by not sending it, you also don't get the frustration of your presumed outcome not happening. I'm with Solomon that living well is the best revenge. What do you want?
And generally, people who are truly shitty are not imbued with a great amount of introspective ability, particularly when it involves criticism from others. After I described the experience to several other writers, I discovered that this publisher had a long history of problems with writers and professionals in the field, including suing a few individuals and organizations for complaining about the quality of its publications.
It was hands-down the best decision I've ever made in my life and I'm grateful to my past self every single day for having the presence of mind to have waited so long before I sent it.
Writing or not writing the letter is not going to change this. I started us.
One scenario, sending that letter verifies to the asshole in question that what they did to you worked and they were able to exert that tiny bit of power over you.